Congrats!
You are the jellyfish.
(aka too kind)
You are loving and connected, and could use support in sticking firm to the rules and following through with what you say you are going to do.
Sometimes we are too kind until we can’t stand our kids and then jump over to too firm until we can’t stand ourselves. There’s another option!
Kind & Firm at the same time.
Here are tips to find the balance with kind and FIRM at the same time…
Kindness (or Connection) =
I see you. I love you. You are enough.
Firmness =
What needs to happen for everyone to share space and coexist respectfully.
Establish routines, then let routines be the boss.
How to make a routine chart with littles, video
Let kids do things on their own and show how capable they are!
Self esteem comes from having skills and they can’t have skills without practice.
Allow disappointment.
When children have practice and experience with big emotions and not getting what they want all the time, they learn life skills and strengthen their executive function.
Think long term.
What skills do you want your child to have when they are all grown up?
How kids can solve their own problems, video
Follow through.
Once a routine or rule has been established, follow through with connection and firmness.