Find your three anchor words.
When your teen rolls their eyes for the third time today — when the door slams, when the silence stretches — you need something to come home to. Three words can do that. Let me show you how to find yours.
You can’t lecture or control your way to connection.
I learned this the hard way — somewhere between my daughter’s text that she was dropping out of school and the long, dark stretch that followed. I wanted so badly to fix it. To say the right thing. To get her back on the plan.
What actually shifted things wasn’t a perfect script or the right consequence. It was me — getting clear on who I wanted to be for her. Three words I could come home to when I felt myself spinning out. Three words that pulled me back to the parent I wanted to show up as, especially in the moments it felt impossible.
This little guide is exactly that practice, distilled. It’s the work I do with parents in my coaching, in the Inner Circle, on the page. And it starts here.
A guide and workbook to help you choose your three.
The why behind anchor words
Why intentionality changes everything in the teen years — and why willpower alone won’t get you there.
A guided reflection
Prompts that walk you through what your teen actually needs from you right now — and what’s getting in the way of giving it.
A word library
Dozens of qualities to consider — from compassion and ease to steadiness and encouragement — so you’re not staring at a blank page.
Your printable anchor card
A beautiful card to fill in with your three words. Tape it to your bathroom mirror, your dashboard, your laptop. Come home to it daily.
How to use them in real moments
What to do when your teen pushes back, shuts down, or tests every limit — and your anchor words feel a million miles away.
A short audio practice
A grounding meditation from me to bring your three words into your body — not just your head.
This is for you if you’re tired of reacting and ready to lead from somewhere deeper.
- You’ve read the parenting books and you know the theory — but in the moment, you still react in ways you regret.
- You’re parenting a teen or tween, and the relationship feels harder than you expected.
- You want practical tools you can actually use — not another lecture about staying calm.
- You’re ready to do the inner work, even when it feels easier to focus on what your teen is doing wrong.
- You want to stop being the parent you don’t want to be — and start showing up as the one your teen actually needs.
“You can’t lecture or control your kids into connection. They need you to be a soft landing.”
Start with three words. Start with yourself. The guide is free — and it might just change everything.