Eps 117: Solo show – A Bit About Choosing in, Being Kind and Firm, Making Agreements and Following Through

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  • I am on the journey with you, I am with you! Highs and lows, you are my peeps!

  • The teen saga continues….

  • Having a teen is like birth, you think you’re so prepared and then…. Reality hits!

  • Teen brain experiences everything so intensely

  • Eps 115 was all about trust and surrender

  • Celebrate the relationship

  • Using and developing breath as a tool

  • 4:45 Our children are our teachers – they picked us!

  • We don’t know what we don’t know and our children highlight that for us

  • Their way of being invites our “stuff” to the surface

  • We then choose how to respond

  • End of the day – they are operating from their developmental place, limited skills, brain development

  • 7:50 Parenting is a never-ending growth and development workshop – we can choose to resist or to grow/evolve

  • 9:15 There is a purpose to this journey

  • Let’s live a life where we are paying attention

  • Our children show us stepping stones to our own growth

  • When we choose into growth and learning we can influence the experience we are having

  • You can only change yourself, you can’t change others

  • Positive Discipline for Teenagers

  • Mistakes our kids make can rock our foundation and philosophy around parenting

  • Being kind and firm at the same time is one of the pillars

  • Peeling back layers of what that ^^ means

  • Kindness only = permissive

  • Firmness only = authoritarian

  • Kind isn’t NICE, it’s connected, firm is respecting ourselves and the situation

  • It’s about progress not perfection, and becoming ever more AWARE of what is happening for us

  • Making agreements is a kind and firm PD parenting tool

  • Get into our child’s world, here what their needs are, share what we need, make a plan together, declare a deadline, follow through (parents)

  • “What was our agreement?”

  • It’s not about being nice while we deliver a consequence…

  • The invitation is to make agreements with YOUR children

  • Not necessarily about the problem we solve, instead it is more about the life skills the kids are practicing inside of the agreement-making

  • Not about finding a solution that lasts forever – every solution has a shelf life



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