Eps 118: Tosha Schore Talks About How We Can Parent Our Boys For A More PEACEFUL World

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 My guest today is Tosha Schore, M.A. Tosha brings a burst of energy and optimism to parenting, and will lift your parenting confidence! She is an expert at simple solutions to what feel like overwhelmingly complicated problems. 

A sought after coach, author and speaker, Tosha is committed to creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time. Through her online and in-person offerings, she supports parents to care for themselves, connect with their boys deeply, set limits lovingly, and play wildly. 

Tosha is a trainer of Hand in Hand Parenting and co-author with the organization’s founder, Patty Wipfler, of “Listen: Five Simple Tools to Meet Your Everyday Challenges.” She is also creator of the wildly popular “Parenting Boys Peacefully! A FREE 10-Day Reconnect,” and the new online course, “Out With Aggression!” 

You can find Tosha on her website, www.toshaschore.com, and on FB at Tosha Schore, Your Partner In Parenting Boys.



  • Raising boys in these days of toxic masculinity

  • Taking a hard look at the ways that men are conditioned

  • Creating a more peaceful world, one sweet boy at a time

  • The question of how to help our boys grow into emotionally intelligent men who don’t see women as objects is worldwide

  • How to help our boys grow up to be peaceful – Huff Post article

  • Move beyond the anger and the fear to what we can DO

  • Opportunity shows up in raising our boys

    • We need to teach our boys that there are lots of ways to be close that aren’t sexual

    • It’s ok to talk, cuddle, hold hands – lots of ways of being intimate

  • Documentary of The Mask You Live In

    • Not giving permission to boys for having intimate friendships with other boys

    • Navigating the jockeying for power among boys

  • Redefining what it means to be masculine

  • What is being modeled in the homes for our boys?

  • Increase our own emotional intelligence and pay attention to how we navigate and model our own upset

  • Boys being encouraged to stuff their emotions

  • Not comfortable with allowing our boys the time and space to have feelings

  • Help them feel comfortable with their full array of emotions – not just anger

  • Popular culture isn’t helpful

  • Advocate/ Fight for the right of our boys to have feelings

  • AND advocate for them to make mistakes and learn from them

  • When our boys make mistakes we need to help them

  • Talk about music lyrics and porn and do it when they are YOUNG

  • Amy Lang – parent educator, parenting through our children’s sexual development

  • Start talking to your boys

  • Don’t let your discomfort get in the way of letting our boys be their whole selves

  • Amy’s short video about having convos about sexual harassment/assault with our kids

  • Talking to our kids about standing up to friends who are harassing others

  • Seize opportunities for modeling/showing them what it looks like to “do what’s right”

  • Story of masculinity inside of supporting a woman on Reddit

  • Acknowledging that standing up for what is right is challenging!!

  • Teachable moments are when they make mistakes and getting into mischief

  • Final thoughts – “hurt people hurt people” – boys and men are hurting and therefore hurting others… when we help them heal from their hurts, we are solving the problem

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