Eps 166: Solo show connecting the dots between how building relationship leads us to more effective parenting

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Solo show!

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 This week’s content:

–       Positive parenting is easy when there isn’t a lot of challenge – more challenging when our kids are rubbing up against our triggers

–       Toolbox metaphor

• Higher our emotion, more likely we use desperate tools (rewards and punishment)

• The more tools we put in to toolbox, the more likely it is that the ineffective tools of rewards and punishment slide to the bottom

• We can always do better

–       Relationship matters!!!!!!

• When our relationships are disconnected, navigating behavior in a harsh way isn’t useful for anyone

• Fear takes us towards harsh punishment

–       Mistakes are opportunities to learn

–       There are always consequences

–       Inviting out kids into relationship

• Can feel uncomfortable

• Taking accountability for how the relationship currently is and get vulnerable

• Just because it’s hard doesn’t mean we stop being curious with our kids

–       Start paying attention to the body

• Support ourselves by noticing what is happening inside

• We get more access to our toolbox when we are grounded and neutral

• At the end of the day what is most useful is your relationship

• NOT permission for being a permissive parent – still hold boundaries

• Stronger relationship the more likely your child will open up and talk to you

–       Creating an environment where our kids can thrive and be a soft landing when they get it wrong

–       Shame/blame does not promote accountability and personal responsibility

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