Eps 180: Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis Discusses Navigating Trauma on the Parenting Journey

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Today’s guest is Dr. Sarah Bergman Lewis. Before attending medical school ,Sarah helped to found a middle school called the Seattle Girls’ School. As part of her 5 years with the Seattle girls’ school she did admission and taught 6th grade Sarah attended University of Washington Medical School. She completed her pediatric residency at Seattle Children’s, has worked in urgent care at Seattle Children’s Hospital, then as a primary care physician.

She and her family later travelled to Guatemala for 3 months where she worked in a local hospital and her kids attended school. Her family will return again this year for a visit and to help launch a partnership between a group of Seattle pediatricians and the Guatemalan hospital.

Outside of works there is pursuing her yoga teaching training certificate and enjoys learning about sharing Integrative Medicine tools with her patients as part of a collaboration between Odessa Brown Children’s Clinic and Arc of King County. She is helping devise the curriculum for a mindful self compassion course for Spanish speaking parents which she will co-facilitate in the spring.

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Her husband Steve is a nonprofit executive director. She is a mom of two delightful children. Today we are talking about navigating our own self-healing. Join us!


“What child needs most is to have a whole adult in their lives”

“Parenting pushes us to our limits. It challenges our core beliefs and just really pushes us in all aspects of our life like no other arena.”

“Part of navigating parenting is being able to identify why we do what we do and how we feel what we feel and how we are expressing it day to day.”   

“Early childhood experiences matter and it matters in a very deep way.”

“The ‘why’ matters.”

“What happens from here is really the most important part.”

“This healing is for everyone.”

“Behavior really is always you know movement towards belonging”

“These things are both universal and deeply personal.”


What you’ll hear in this episode:

  • Parenting from wholeness, not fear

  • Adverse childhood events and how they affect parents and parenting

  • Adverse childhood events study explained

  • The dose response effect to adverse childhood events

  • How ACE scores impact health (physical and mental) risks
    The shadow side of resilience

  • Behavior as a solution to a problem we don’t know about

  • Epigenetics, what is it and what does it have to do with behavior?

  • Being aware of what drives our internal “shark music”

  • Exercising self-compassion around when you’re going to work on your issues

  • How the way we talk to ourselves impacts how we talk to people in our family

  • What embodiment means

  • Encouraging embodiment in our kids

  • Guiding conversations about embodiment

  • Discussing screen time with our kids


What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

Oh gosh so joyful courage to me means being all in, you know, with the good, the bad, the ugly, the beautiful as Glennon Melton Doyle calls it. It is being willing to feel that discomfort and really trusting that it’s going to go to a better place and that it does give you those really joyful moments and those transformative moments even if it, so my my daughter the other day as we were leaving, you know, I was being less than ideal, less than my best self going out the door and she looked at me and she said “Remember, mom, peace begins with me.” and I was like “Oh shoot!” But it’s so true and you know, it’s like, we’re going to be okay.



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