Eps 211: Finding the joy in missing out with Tonya Dalton

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Today’s guest is Tonya Dalton. Tonya is a productivity expert, writer, speaker and founder of Inkwell Press Productivity Company, a company centered around productivity tools and training. she released her book The Joy of Missing Out on October 1, she’s going to share a little bit about her book with us. Tanya is also the mother of two teenagers and really knows what it means to be the leader of a family.  Join us!

” I love that it feels like a permission slip. Like I feel like I have permission to just stop chasing my tail.”

“We’re filling our calendars, but we’re not really filling our souls.”

“it’s really about mindful living. It’s really about living with intention.”

“Productivity is not about doing more. It’s about doing what is most important.”

“Life is meant to be enjoyed, not just endured.”

“None of us truly have it all together all of the time.”

“Balance is a myth.”

What you’ll hear in this episode:


  • The glorification of busy

  • The obligation and pressure to be busy 

  • How not being busy makes us feel about ourselves 

  • How being busy keeps us from nurturing ourselves and others 

  • Quality over quantity 

  • Embracing imperfection

  • Releasing the need to be busy 

  • “Shoulding” on ourselves and why that’s not helpful 

  • Living mindfully with intention

  • Prioritizing activities instead of trying to do all the things

  • Letting go of “Some Day” Syndrome

  • The stories we tell ourselves and unreasonably high expectations

  • Getting curious about our responses to life 

  • Examining our comfort zones and if they are serving us

  • How releasing perfectionism supports connection

  • Letting people lift you up as a gift to them

  • Family as a team

  • Sunday planning as a ritual

  • Division of labor based on team member needs and supporting each other

  • Belonging and significance and filling each other’s buckets

  • Encouraging ownership and buy in with your kids

  • Letting go of balance

  • Finding flexibility in the mess

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

I love this question because I think joyful courage to me really means the ability to stand up, to feel confident in your choices, and to live the life you really want. Because here’s the truth, you know, living a life is centered on your priorities and letting your priorities sit front and center every day is a choice. And it’s not always an easy choice because people will question it. People will pull you in different directions wanting you to say yes to things when really you should be saying no. And so really joyful courage is standing tall and standing true to what is most important to you.


The Joy of Missing Out

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Where to find Tonya:


Inkwell Press



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Parenting is messy. Alongside all of the joy comes and emotional freight train full of challenges and frustration. Your child can instantly trigger strong reactions that leave you feeling angry and out of control. What if you didn’t respond so emotionally every time? What if you could learn to be more present to the experience you were having? Might you feel like a better parent?

Joyful Courage: Calming the Drama and Taking Control of Your Parenting Journey helps parents navigate the roller coaster of parenting to reveal:

  • How identifying your body’s physical reaction to stress is the first step to taking control of your parenting

  • Why our past experiences add to the conflict with out kids and what to do about it.

  • Real-life stories from parents riding the emotional freight train.

  • The Three B’s Method to change your reaction anytime, anywhere.

  • How to grow your relationship with all of the people that you love.

From toddlers to teenagers, Joyful Courage is the practical and thoughtful resource for parents to navigate the challenge of raising children while choosing to be connected and engaged. Parents can learn how to be the best for their families with Joyful Courage.

Thank you to everyone that has been so encouraging on this journey!!!  I appreciate you!!!!


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