The goal of behavior is to find and feel a sense of belonging and significance
Mistaken goals: Undue attention
Connection vs. attention
Tune into how your kid’s behavior makes you feel
Parents contribute to beliefs kids have about connection
The coded message behind annoying behavior is notice me and involve me usefully
Redirect by involving your kids in a useful task
Say what you will do
Avoid special services
Plan 1 on 1 time with your kids
Involve your kids in creating routines
Resources mentioned: Eps 261 | Mistaken Goal Chart
See you next week!! 🙂
Getting clear on Boundaries, Consequences and Punishment: Middle School and Beyond…
FREE WEBINAR THIS TUESDAY (that’s tomorrow for anyone listening to this show the day it’s coming out) from 5:30 – 7pm PST.
This webinar is for you if you are a parent or a caregivers who are currently parenting kids in middle and high school. The information presented and activities facilitated come straight from Positive Discipline theory.
During the webinar we will:
Connect around the common goal of raising teens with character and life skills
Tease apart the difference between punishment, consequences and boundaries
Learn the tools and mindset for more collaboration, problem solving and follow through
Participants who engage in the webinar, try on the learning, and put the tools into practice will be able to make an impact on the challenges they are facing with their child. AND, this may be a starting point for you. There is nothing magic about what is shared in this webinar, the magic exists in how you implement what you learn and your willingness to try again and again and again.
All you need to do to get signed up is go to joyfulcourage.com/webinar
Parenting for the Season You’re In – MIDDLE SCHOOL AND BEYOND
I am super excited to announce that there is a BRAND NEW LIVE CLASS happening for parents of Middle Schoolers and BEYOND in March!
Each week will be a live session with me, where I will deliver content and facilitate learning, followed by time for parent hot seats – time for parents to share their real and relevant challenges and get laser sharp coaching from me! AND, each week participants will get a downloadable guide as well as a companion audio meditation to use to stay connected to what they are working to integrate into their relationships with their adolescent.
Some of what we will cover includes:
Being with the roller coaster of the teen years
Recognize where we are adding to our kids discouragement, and how to step back into relationship
Communication tools that build resilience and connection
How kindness and firmness looks the same, and different as our kids get older
Being the parent you want to be
School, screens, peers, attitude – all of what you learn during the Seasons course will support you showing up to the challenges of THIS season in a way that aligns with your values.
Here’s what parents said about the Seasons course:
“In these uncertain times I needed the grounding I get from Positive Discipline. Casey does a brilliant job of teaching the core concepts and guiding you through the challenges of putting them into practice. This program is for everyone. If you are familiar with Positive Discipline it’s a fantastic refresher. If you are new to Positive Discipline this will be a game-changer for your family. Your time and money will be very well spent. ”
— Mama Sarah
“I loved learning what draws us closer to our children and what pushes our children away. I know this stuff, however it was good to have it in a list that so clearly gave me visuals for how those actions show up in my life.”
— Mama Kimberly
Head over to www.joyfulcourage.com/seasons to find out more.
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