Eps 295: Avoiding Codependency with Alana Carvalho


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My guest today is Alana Carvalho.

Alana is a licensed mental health counselor who focuses on helping parents, couples and individuals build balanced relationships by releasing old patterns and becoming more authentic.  

She is especially passionate about helping individuals see how healing codependency and perfectionism can lead to a more joy filled life. 

Alana has lectured on child development at The College of Staten Island. Her first book Raising Empowered Children: The Codependent Perfectionist’s Guide to Parenting is now available on amazon.com

Alana maintains her private practice in Midtown Manhattan and is currently seeing clients virtually. You can connect with her through her website, Instagram, podcast or you can email her at [email protected]

Takeaways from the show:

  • Alana’s story

  • Codependency in the context of parenting

  • Developing community outside of family members

  • Being supportive vs controlling

  • Creating a safe space for your kids

  • Validation and support coming into play

  • Empowering your children by asking if they want your help

  • Being in relationship with kids who are in resistance

  • Example moving through hard things for your child

  • How you respond is where your influence lies

  • Building resilience

What does Joyful Courage mean to you?

For me it’s exactly what we’re talking about. It’s pushing yourself to grow in these uncomfortable ways and doing it knowing that’s what brings joy into life and relationships, by pushing out of your comfort zone and taking a look at yourself.

Where to find Alana:

Instagram | Book | Website

See you next week!! 🙂


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