Eps 330: Learning about the Parenting Identity Development Model with Mercedes Samudio

Episode 331

My guest this week is Mercedes Samudio.

Mercedes is a parent coach, LCSW, bestselling author, and speaker who helps parents and children communicate with each other, manage emotional trauma, navigate social media and technology together, and develop healthy parent-child relationships. Over the course of her career, Mercedes has worked with adoptive families, foster families, teen parents, parents navigating the child protective services system, and children living with mental illness. 

Mercedes started the #EndParentShaming movement as well as coined the term Shame-Proof Parenting – using both to bring awareness to ending parent shame. She published the book, Shame Proof Parenting: Find Your Unique Parenting Voice, Feel Empowered, and Raise Whole, Healthy Children.

Mercedes was on Eps 122, where we dug deep into the shame proof parenting philosophy.

She is a leading parenting expert and has an amazing following on social media that allows her to reach the hearts of thousands of parents who feel heard and seen on their parenting journey. 

Mercedes has been featured on The Huffington Post, US News and Report, Woman’s Day, LA Parent Magazine, CBS LA, and Kids In The House. She seeks to empower parents to believe they are already great guides for raising healthy and happy children.
To learn more about Mercedes and her work, please visit www.shameproofparenting.com.

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Takeaways from the show

  • Catching up on the last few years of Mercedes’ career after the Diversity in Parenting Conference
  • Parental identity model
  • Stages of the parental identity
  • Reflecting on who influences your behavior
  • Dismissiveness in tween behavior
  • Asking yourself; how do you demonstrate who you are to those around you
  • Hearing the vulnerability in your teens questions
  • Being willing to take a look at your own stuff
  • Being curious to develop reflective questions
  • Practice roll playing with your kids
  • Reflecting on your human journey moments
  • Teens want to be understood
  • Working through how outside influences affect you


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