Eps 395: Gender magic with Rae McDaniel

Episode 395

My guest today is Rae McDaniel.  

Rae is back to share about their new book, Gender Magic.  They share what hurdles they see in advocacy for trans & non-binary people like vocal habits and making assumptions.  We talk about how transitioning isn’t the point, but living authentically, shamelessly, and joyfully is.  I ask Rae to share more about their personal experience as a nonbinary person, and they tell me about dismantling the idea that being transgender is a burden to others.  We get into gender norms, exploring gender in a lighter way, intimacy, and freedom for trans folks.  I ask Rae what parents should know and for best practices in supporting their teens while they define their gender and discover their sexuality.  We wrap up our chat talking on advocacy and supporting the trans community.

Guest Description

Rae McDaniel (they/them) is a non-binary therapist, Certified Sex Therapist, Coach, and Transgender Diversity and Inclusion educator. Rae’s debut book, GENDER MAGIC: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self, is available now!

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Takeaways from the show

  • Rae’s new book: Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step into Your Most Authentic Self
  • Hurdles for advocacy like vocal habits & not making assumptions 
  • Transitioning isn’t the point: living authentically, shamelessly, & joyfully is 
  • Mental health and messaging for transgender teens and the importance of supportive family environment 
  • The barrier of gender looking one particular way 
  • Dismantling the idea that being transgender is a burden to others 
  • Everybody has some fluidity and feminine & masculine energy 
  • Gender norms don’t always fit cis people either
  • Play, pleasure, and possibilities for trans folks 
  • Best practices and tips for parents of teens discovering more about their gender and sexuality
  • Finding your people and community  
  • Being a partner to and advocate for your teen

What does joyful courage mean to you 

This may be a little tongue in cheek, but I feel that it’s the courage to be joyful!  The courage to center joy, to center pleasure in your life, as an act of resistance, especially for marginalized folks, trans folks, and nonbinary folks.  Living your life with joy, pleasure, and connection.  That in and of itself is revolutionary.  To me, right now, that’s what joyful courage means.



Rae’s Website

Rae’s Book – Gender Magic: Live Shamelessly, Reclaim Your Joy, & Step Into Your Most Authentic Self

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