Eps 627: The Inner Work of Intentional Parenting

Ahhhh…. Today joyful courage is SO ALIVE for me!! It is choosing to move past the pain and discomfort of what has shown up to teach me and INTO the learning, growth and OPPORTUNITY to create an even BETTER version of what I want. It is palpable and raw for me right now and I am HERE FOR IT!

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[00:00:00] Casey O'Roarty: Welcome, welcome, welcome to the Joyful Courage Podcast. This is a place where parents of tweens and teens come to find inspiration, information, and encouragement in the messy terrain of adolescents this season of parenting. Is no joke. And while the details of what we're all moving through might be slightly different, we are indeed having a very collective experience.
[00:00:30] This is a space where we center building, relationship, nurturing life skills, and leaning into our own personal growth and man. The opportunities abound, right. My name is Casey Ody. I am a parent coach, positive discipline lead trainer, and captain of the adolescent ship over at Sprout Bowl. I'm also a speaker and a published author.
[00:00:53] I've been working with parents and families for over 20 years. And continue to navigate my own experience of being a mom with my two young adult kids. I'm so honored that you're here and listening. Please give back to the podcast by sharing it with friends or on social media rate and review us on Apple or Spotify.
[00:01:13] Word of mouth is how we grow. Thank you so, so much. Enjoy the show.
[00:01:25] Okay. Hi. Hi. It is, well when you're listening to this, it will be Thursday, November 20th. That's when this show is going live. It's a few days before that as I record, and I just feel so much gratitude right now for. This work that I get to do and this call that I feel to share and show up for you, and I'm just coming into this space feeling really energized and really enthusiastic.
[00:02:04] And just really, really grateful. Really grateful. I wanna, I wanna share something that's been on my heart, that is a part of my practice that's actually been in my heart, moving through my body and shaping how I am showing up or working towards showing up. To each moment of my life, and I've brought her up before, but I have this friend Jeanette, who I've been out of touch with and I miss deeply and she.
[00:02:40] Shared something with me that ne that just really stuck, and I've brought it up here before, but I'm gonna bring it up again because I think it's so powerful. And that is we live life on a spiral and it's a deepening. Into opportunities to practice the things that we've learned, the things that we've grown through.
[00:03:03] It's an opportunity life spirals and offers us experiences and events and relationships that exist. I think, I believe that exist as powerful gifts to integrate what we're learning and who we are continuously becoming and opportunities to stay focused on what we want most and recognize that we are the ones that we're waiting for.
[00:03:38] We are the creators of. What it is that we want most. So shout out to my girl, Jeanette, for that powerful wisdom and powerful guidance 'cause it's really stuck with me. It stuck with me in a lot of ways, and here we are on the pod. We talk a lot about parenting tools and strategies. We dive into how to handle tough moments with our teenagers.
[00:04:11] Today we're gonna go even deeper. I wanna talk about the work that is at the heart of all of it, and it's not the work of managing our kids' behavior or even reacting. To our kids' behavior, but the work of choosing our own experience moment by moment, because here's what I've learned through some of the hardest seasons of my life.
[00:04:39] We don't get to control what unfolds. Ugh. It's super annoying. We don't get to control what unfolds, but we absolutely get to decide how we meet it. The meaning we give it. And what we wanna take away from it. So we're peeling back layers together. My friends, that's what we're doing today. And I know I say this all the time because it's true.
[00:05:09] I am peeling back my own layers. I am right beside you. I am walking the talk. In fact. I wrote this whole episode yesterday and you know, that's what I do. I write out the episode and then I record it and I wrote it out, and then I found myself in a real moment with Ben, with my husband. I, it got messy and it got tense, and I.
[00:05:40] Made my way into the bathroom for some breaths for a little separation, and I leaned up against the sink and as I stood there in my feels, in my wanting to be right in my why can't he, just, as I stood there inside of that, I breathed and I thought about, huh, this is exactly the kind of moment. That I wrote about for the podcast, and this is the exact kind of moment that I am encouraging my people to be with in a new and different way.
[00:06:20] So I got to ask myself, am I willing to practice what I preach? Am I willing. To integrate in a hard moment. What I know outside of the moment is useful is forwarding and is in service to me and what I wanna create. I had this whole moment in the bathroom. Where I got to be with my willingness, which I'm gonna talk about willingness in a little bit, and choose to integrate what I know is what would take me and the experience I was having in a new direction, right?
[00:06:58] So when I say I am right beside you, I am literally right beside you. I am doing this work. I am choosing into being with the tension and. Allowing myself to try new and different things. I'm right beside you. And I have to say, sometimes I feel like, okay, am I overindulging in my own sharing here on the podcast?
[00:07:26] Is it useful? What am I doing? Like I have this observer of self who is questioning what it is that I bring here to all of you. And. What I come back to again and again is that part of the problem of the human experience is that we, humans don't express what is real for us. We have walls, we have masks, we have beliefs that keep us from revealing what is true.
[00:07:54] And there's a whole range of reasons why we lean away from revealing what's true. We wanna be seen a certain way. We wanna be appreciated a certain way, and. There might have been messaging around, you know, you're too much or nobody wants to hear this, or you're having a unique experience for you and other people don't get it.
[00:08:20] I'll tell you what, though, I am continuously being called in to share. I can't not share. I know I'm not alone in my experiences and part of my process. Of moving through things is expressing what I'm moving through. Also, I recognize that I'm someone with a little platform here and I feel a responsibility.
[00:08:47] I am here for it. I experience this responsibility to show up in my truth, in my authenticity. And be seen in it and in my sharing, my hope is you see yourself and you consider how what I share can inform and inspire you. I believe that it will. I'm here to be a mirror for you. I'm here to. Reveal and express maybe what is hard for you to reveal and express, but offer a vehicle for you to feel seen.
[00:09:23] That's what I'm here for you guys. I'm here for you. I'm here for you. So, you know, one of the things that is real and alive right now is that I am. Working on creating fine tuning, nurturing this living joyful Courage Coaching week that is happening the first week of December. And really fine tuning the messaging around what it is, right, and for me.
[00:09:55] What I really want people to appreciate, and I'm working on language to get there, is that coaching week is to support you in the work of being with however life is currently unfolding. Yes. Specifically during the season of adolescence and midlife. And I appreciate, because I'm experiencing it on so many different levels, this midlife.
[00:10:24] Era is real, right? It's really real. Our kids and what they're moving through, our partners, our marriages, our relationships, how that's evolving, what's showing up there, the work that we're doing, the purpose we're finding, not to mention our bodies, how our bodies are changing and feeling our moods. Hello all of you, Perry.
[00:10:51] Menopause and Menopausal Women. Life is real. Life is real and one day feels like we have it all together and you know, the next day we might get some kind of news that brings us to our knees. And I know this experience because I live in this experience. I, you know, recently had some things come to light that brought me to my knees.
[00:11:20] Right. And so I am really like in this tender, potent place of wanting to speak into how I'm navigating it, right? And again, how I'm navigating it, what I'm sharing with you, what I'm living. I know that it's a collective experience. I know that there are things happening in your life, maybe not right now, maybe.
[00:11:49] Over the past few months or maybe ahead of you, there's no escaping life unfolding, right? There's no escaping it. And I wanna be someone who can support you in moving through it. And if you've listened to the podcast for a while, you know that my little family really went through it when my oldest was in the prime of her teen years.
[00:12:11] Mental health challenges dropping out of school substance use. It felt like the sky was falling on me and you know, initially I had no idea how to hold it. I didn't know what to do, or if I thought I knew what to do. Putting it into actual action with a kiddo who was on the edge of breakdown was way easier said than done.
[00:12:40] Way easier thought about. Then actually practiced and I got, you know, loads of advice. Some of it was useful, some of it not. I did. I wanted someone to tell me what to do, but I was also super clear that I wanted to do right by my girl. I wanted to do right by myself. I wanted to be sure that what we were doing, however we were responding to this season, this era.
[00:13:08] Was going to be helpful and not hurtful. I wanted her to feel seen and validated and accepted. I wanted her to feel like we had faith in her. And actually, as I say this, oh man, this is actual real time realization. So during this period of time that was so hard for row and I actually had to monitor and manage some communication that I was having with my parents, and I realized.
[00:13:36] During this period of time that was so hard in our family with Rowan, I also wanted to feel seen and validated and accepted in my experience. And I wanted my parents to have faith. I wanted to feel like they had faith in me. Isn't that interesting? And I did not feel that way. And so I had to protect myself and kind of adjust what communication looked like with that part of my family.
[00:14:05] Huh? Anyway. Anyway. Wow. That was big. But in truth, you know, I wanted her to feel like we had faith in her. And in truth, I didn't. I didn't have faith. I was a mess. I didn't have faith in myself. I was scared. I felt so alone. It seemed like everybody was skating through the teen years and that was not our experience.
[00:14:27] And the world just got really small. Got really small, and again. I wanted to do right by her. I wanted to know that however we navigated what was happening, of course, that it was gonna be supportive and forwarding, and something she could look back on and say, yes, this was helpful. I didn't think that meant tough love.
[00:14:51] That didn't feel right to me. Leaning in hard to the traditional narrative of, Hey, you just gotta shake this off. Do what you need to do, jump through the hoops. You know, again, I knew there were family members who believed that this was the right way to handle what was happening, and it didn't align with me, and it felt really precarious.
[00:15:13] And I knew it didn't mean that I should be coddling her either giving in and letting her hole up in her room with no expectations or responsibilities. So what I remember just being like, so what is in the middle? Right? What was in the middle? And. This long experience was the beginning of shifting my way of showing up and of being.
[00:15:38] I knew I couldn't control her. I knew I couldn't control the experience that we were in. I couldn't force her to do what I thought she should do. I wanted to, I didn't understand anxiety and depression. I was lost. I didn't have the parenting answers for what we were moving through, and it wasn't like this cookie cutter, just do this situation, and this is when I began to turn inward in a very real way.
[00:16:12] This is when I decided, okay, I might not know what to do. But I am going to focus on and work on who I'm being. And this was, you know, one of the first times in my adult life that I felt like I was handed something to grow through something that was designed to. Change me and expand and evolve my understanding of myself and what it meant to not only meet life as it unfolded, but to show up with intention.
[00:16:53] My experience with Rowan really forced me to slow down and to be with the discomfort of deep uncertainty. It taught me how to believe even when there was no evidence for it, that everything was gonna be okay. And I didn't get to define what okay, actually even meant. I just got to hold that it existed in the future.
[00:17:19] I started to recognize how that mindset shifted, how I was with myself and my family and my work, right? So here I am. Doing my do, navigating this really tough thing with my kiddo, and then the universe was like, let's kick it up a notch. My husband got sick, COVID, and cancer showed up weeks apart. And again, I was in this tailspin of what the fuck is actually happening right now.
[00:17:50] And I know you've heard these stories before, but I'm bringing them up just to remind you. That. You know, I hear a lot from people like, oh, I wish you were on my shoulder, or Your voice is in my head, and I just wanna remind you that there's no world in which other people aren't navigating tough things and really rolling around in the messiness of life.
[00:18:29] And you know, the way I made sense of this unfolding was okay. Talking to myself like, okay, you're practicing something big with Rowan. You're working to design your experience of the experience. The universe says, we're gonna level things up and give you an even bigger opportunity. Your husband has multiple myeloma.
[00:18:52] What are you gonna do with that? Fuck man. It was really crazy to think about. Rowan was still struggling, but connection was there. The world was shut down because of COVID, and my husband has blood cancer. And, you know, talk about that big fat message of you have no control over life unfolding. I mean, holy moly, it was devastating.
[00:19:19] It was devastating, of course, to get Ben's diagnosis. It was massive ordeal. It took our breath away. We had to learn about what multiple myeloma was because none of us had ever heard of it. Googling it was a huge mistake. The worldwide web had not caught up on all the research that had been done, and what I found when I looked it up was extremely grim and bleak.
[00:19:47] And here I was again. Here I was again, being invited to believe even when there was no evidence for it, that everything was gonna be okay and trusting again that whatever, okay, looked like it was part of something bigger and honestly. I was here for it. I was managing to stay regulated, to stay in hope and to have faith in my family and our growth.
[00:20:11] And I remember during that time that someone said to me, you know, it's okay to fall apart. And it almost felt like an accusation. It felt like they were messaging, like, you don't have anything to prove here. And I don't know why that comment made such an impact on me, but it did. I mean, I'm still talking about it.
[00:20:32] I remember thinking to myself, should I be falling apart? Like, am I compartmentalizing and not feeling my feelings? What am I avoiding? Hard feelings. I remember really asking myself that and continuing to ask myself that. When things are really hard, I don't think that I was compartmentalizing. I was scared.
[00:20:56] I was scared about the unknown and just like how with Rowan, I knew that we didn't know what the outcome of this cancer diagnosis was gonna be. We're putting huge faith in our care team. Our little family was tight and closer than ever, real and raw and transparent. I wasn't falling apart, I wasn't compartmentalizing.
[00:21:18] I was meeting life as it unfolded. I was living. In the present moment and deciding how I wanted to show up for it, what I wanted to create the vibe at our house was a lot of things. COVI and cancer and mental health spirals. I mean, I'm not religious, but Jesus take the wheel like that. That was my experience, right?
[00:21:43] That was my request a lot of the time, and when I think back. There was so much love and joy and togetherness and we laughed and we spent time and we snuggled and it was such a close, oh God, we were so close as a family and now we're five years out from that time. But I am, we, we are back in the uncertainty of cancer.
[00:22:10] Ben's back in treatment. He's been back in treatment since the spring, the last few years of launching our youngest. My husband and I, finding our feet in the empty nest life now has taken us in all sorts of directions, and as a couple, as two people in a committed partnership, we've been confronted by some pretty big challenges and have decided, without a doubt, we want to carry on together.
[00:22:42] And I share about Ben's journey on Facebook. People comment about how strong I am, how inspiring it is to read about how we're moving through right now. And of course I appreciate the feedback, but truly it is way messier than it looks like on a Facebook post. And I try to convey that I am incredibly imperfect and.
[00:23:06] It is fucking messy, you guys, and there's, even as I say that, like I feel a tightening in my chest. I can feel the work that I'm committed to, to not let, to not let my tender spots take the lead. And what I think the biggest thing I can say about showing up to life unfolding is that we have a choice. We have a choice, and that's what I really wanna land today.
[00:23:41] In this episode, we have a choice to be with what feels heavy and dark and let it take us under or. We can stay buoyant. We can stay connected to what is real, while also recognizing what we can't control, and we can stay in the present moment and decide what we wanna create, what we wanna create. This was my.
[00:24:14] Moment in the bathroom last night deciding, okay, I'm feeling these feelings, I'm having these emotions, I'm having these thoughts, but what do I wanna create? And what do I mean by what we wanna create? This is actually a question I ask my clients a lot and people in my membership. What it means to me is, and it's also what I'm gonna be asking during coaching week.
[00:24:37] What it means to me is what are the qualities that I wanna bring to life and animate and infuse into my relationships in the space, in the environment? What way of being am I committed to showing up? And this is what supported me in the days when Rowan, who, by the way, is absolutely kicking ass at life.
[00:25:03] Was in her spiral. It supported me through COVI and round one of cancer. It's been supporting me over the last year with Ben's health and our relational challenges. Especially it's supported me just in the last few weeks where things are very real and raw with us. What do I want? What do I wanna create?
[00:25:25] What do you want? What do you wanna create? Other questions that are useful? How do you wanna feel? What's a baby step in that direction? What thoughts or beliefs can support you? In that work of moving towards what you actually wanna feel. And again, I am sharing 'cause I'm, I know I'm not the only one moving through some shit.
[00:25:48] Some of you have kids who are in a struggle or you've recently lost a parent, or your relationship is being challenged in a way you never thought you'd be navigating. I see you and I get it. It's real. And I wonder what do you wanna create? How do you wanna feel? Can you release the people around you from being responsible for how you feel?
[00:26:13] We are all living in our own equally valid, separate realities. You've heard me say this before. Thank you Connie, the couples counselor for that. We all influence the dynamic we find ourselves in. We all have responsibility. For growing the dynamic that we're in, we get to decide. Who we wanna be in the present moment and how that beingness is or is not serving us, right?
[00:26:44] We get to feel empowered by that. And if you're listening to this in real time, you know, I've already said it. I have this program happening the first week of December and I wanna put something together that is all about this present moment work because listen. All we have is right now We can dream about project into hope for certain things in our future, which is great.
[00:27:10] Like don't not do that. But please be aware that all that's real is right now. All that's real is right now, and as I've been marketing for coaching week, it's really been about, you know, how you're consuming things, how we consume things. We read books, we listen to podcasts, we go to free webinars, we take it in.
[00:27:36] But then who are we? When things get hard, what are we integrating? What is getting in the way of the being? That we bring to whatever experience we're having. Right. To me, the work is, there's five pieces to this and I'm gonna talk about them with you
[00:28:07] for first is self-awareness, and this is exactly the process I went through in the bathroom last night. Okay. So it's real and. Active self-awareness, willingness, breath as a tool, embodiment. Repeat. So I'm gonna walk you through this. I'm gonna walk you through this. So, self-awareness, what does that mean?
[00:28:33] Being self-aware. Being self-aware means noticing that you're having a moment, noticing that you are tight, that you are scared, that you are tense or sad, or spinning out. Noticing and observing yourself in your present moment. Being willing to create a little bit of space by asking, okay, what's my experience right now?
[00:28:57] We get to see it. We get to name it. We get to talk to ourselves about it. Last night, it sounded like, okay, I am in the shit. I am attached to being right. I feel justified. I am tense. I am angry. And how's that working out for me? It's not, it feels shitty. It is contributing to a dynamic that I don't wanna be in.
[00:29:26] It is not useful. And then we get to willingness. This sounds like, do I wanna stay here? Do I want this to be my present moment? Reality, right? And reality, really, facts are facts, right? So let's talk about reality. The reality is, facts are facts. People get sick, they make mistakes, they make big mistakes.
[00:29:46] Sometimes they hurt us. They hurt others, they hurt themselves. So when I ask, do I want this to be my reality, what I'm asking is, do I want to live inside of anger and fear and sadness, or do I wanna create something different? Do I wanna experience the reality? The facts. Do I wanna experience what's alive in the present moment differently And full disclosure, 'cause that's what I do.
[00:30:17] This is hard for me when I'm mad at someone else, when I feel like someone has caused me pain. I notice that I really hold onto the anger because I want the other person to feel the pain that they've caused me. I don't wanna let them off the hook for the pain that their actions caused, and somehow, some way I've decided that the way to do that is to passive aggressively.
[00:30:50] Hang on. Right. And like, ugh. It's the classic story of, you know, forgiveness not being for the other person, but forgiveness being for ourselves, right? And all the ways that we are angry at somebody else is actually hurting us, right? And, and it feels really hard when someone is moving through something scary, like addiction or an illness.
[00:31:16] Letting go of the fear or worry might feel so vulnerable because. What if it's not okay in the end? What if things don't turn around? Right? But here's what I keep learning through all the ways that life continues to unfold over the past seven or eight years for me. What I keep coming back to, what I believe in with my whole heart is all we have is the present moment.
[00:31:42] This is where we live. This is where life is happening right here, right now, everything is uncertain and may not be okay in the end, but how do I wanna feel right now? What do I wanna create in this moment? What do I wanna create in this moment for me? Connection, ease, trust, love, hope, joy. These are the qualities.
[00:32:07] Am I willing to let these qualities in? Am I willing to move out of the angst and anger and into something better? Something that feels better, right? Oof. Am I willing to let go a little bit? And if the answer is yes, then the next place to go is breath. Typically our nervous system needs some support, and breath is a tool to slow things down and begin to shift into something New.
[00:32:37] Breath loosens the tension in our chest slows down our heartbeat, softens our body. Another thing, because I do realize that breath is useful for some, not everyone, so maybe for you it's a full body shake. Maybe for you, you know, it's like a brush down all of your limbs and your body. Whatever works for you to support that nervous system relief, do it.
[00:33:06] Sometimes it doesn't take much. Oftentimes it does, and we get to be with what is helpful in calming us down for as long as it takes. As I do this, I'm inviting myself into that willingness and letting go of my grip on needing to be right. Look good, justify. Instead, I am deciding I wanna create something new.
[00:33:33] And self-compassion plays a role here too, because I can beat myself up for being so hung up on things. Or I can say, of course you're tender, you've been hurt. Of course you feel the way that you feel. And what do you wanna create? When do you wanna create some days? I, hang on. I have such a vice grip on how I'm feeling and that there feels like power in the emotions that I'm in.
[00:34:05] Okay. Yeah, true. And how is it serving me? Is it serving me? Can I slow things down and decide if something different may serve me And what I ultimately want better? Breath is a tool for me. That gives room for this. And then the next step is that embodiment step. So as we slow it down, find our willingness.
[00:34:29] Right. We get to work on embodying what it is that we want to create. What does that mean? I saw somewhere that to embody is to act from the heart. I love that. When I think about embodiment, it's about animating and bringing to life what we wanna create more of. Bringing to life what we wanna create more of in our present moment.
[00:34:57] Acting from the heart is a beautiful place to start acting from the heart, not acting from the head, acting from the heart. Like I mentioned, when I think about what I wanna create, the words that come to mind for me are connection and ease and trust. And love and hope and joy. These are definitely true for me in my relationship with my husband, right?
[00:35:23] And for me, with both kids out of the house, my arena of practice, all of this work that we talk about. A lot more now, more than you know, in the past 23 years of raising kids, I get to really focus in on the my primary relationship, which is the one with my husband. When I put it in the context of my kids, I would add words like faith and non-judgment, and curiosity and acceptance.
[00:35:51] To embody these qualities means to bring them to life in my body and to move from. These qualities. So breath continues to be a tool as I think about breathing in growing, animating, connection, ease, and trust. What does that feel like in my body? Can I breathe them in? And feel them expand in my chest, expand in my heart center.
[00:36:19] What happens to my thoughts when I make room in my body for connection and ease and trust? How does it shift the stories that I'm telling myself about me and the other person and the relationship and the current challenge? How does it influence or impact my present moment? And you know, we get to live for ourselves, right?
[00:36:47] We get to choose into living in a way that puts our wellbeing at the center, at the top of the list. Guess what? When you are in your present moment from a place of connection and ease and trust, if that's what you, that's what I wanna animate, that's what I wanna bring to life, then it's a different conversation that I'm having with my husband rather than when fear and anger and suspicion are.
[00:37:19] Ruling the moment, right? And I invite a different version of the other person into the conversation as well. When I come from his connection, ease, and trust, he gets to step into that as well. And instead of react or defend, he gets to lean in and soften. And then we get to really see each other in a new.
[00:37:47] A more profound way, right? For a while, and then our humanness happens and we get to start again, which is that fifth step, which is repeat, right? There's no final arrival place, right? There's nowhere to get to where this isn't a continuous dance, right? A continuous. In the moment, recognizing where we're at, being willing to shift the con, you know, holding what we want most.
[00:38:22] Like this is all part of the spiral. It's all part of the spiral. And you know right when we start to feel proficient, like, okay, we've got this, the universe delivers, right? I've been joking the last few weeks saying, damn, the universe has a really, has a really high opinion of me because she is. Giving me so many gifts to live through, right?
[00:38:45] So many gifts. I'm sure she's given it to you too. But this is the kind of work that we're doing during coaching week. This is the focus, shifting our internal experience, being intentional in our present moments, being in our life in a way that serves us. And then this side benefit, this beautiful side benefit is that it serves the people we love as well.
[00:39:10] Here's the truth. When we release others from the responsibility of making us feel good, when we take ownership of our experience, when we choose to create connection and ease and trust, or whatever it is you wanna create in your present moment, we become the gift. We become the gift. We become the energy that shifts the room.
[00:39:31] The energy that is an invitation for others to show up differently as well. And it's not about perfection. It is messy. It is practice. It's about coming back again and again to this moment, being in the moment, being present. 'cause it's all we have right here, right now, right here, right now. So I'll ask you again, what do you wanna create?
[00:39:57] What do you wanna create in your relationship with your teenagers and your relationship with your friends, with your partners, with your colleagues? How do you wanna feel? Right? How do you wanna feel inside of those dynamics? And what are the baby steps that you can take right now towards animating, embodying, breathing, those qualities in.
[00:40:23] Your present moment is always waiting for you to influence it, to design it, to create it. Right. Your present moment is always waiting for you, and so is mine
[00:40:39] and Y know. I mean, it's pretty big. It's pretty big. So if this is lighting you up, if you are like, holy cow, I'm gonna listen to this again. I hope that's your experience. And, uh, if you wanna go deeper in this, like come join Coaching week. I know you're hearing ads for it here on the pod and in all the places, but truly I have designed it for you.
[00:41:06] It is. A powerful opportunity to one, really look at and start to practice what you wanna create, right? Really do the present moment integration work that I'm talking about here. It's also an awesome way for you to go from listening to the podcast to actually being in an interactive learning environment with me.
[00:41:33] I would love to have you do that. That'd be really fun. And you know, the community, the takeaways, all of it, it's just going to be really profound. So I want you to go to be sprout.com/ljc Coach Week. There's more information there. It's $37 and uh, the welcome live stream is November 30th. So yeah, everything's recorded.
[00:41:57] You don't have to be there live. If you can't make it, you don't have to be at everything. It's valuable. I'll see you there. Have a beautiful rest of your week. Have a beautiful weekend. I'll be back next week. Oh, and special shout out to my good friend, EDRA. Who listened to her instinct and called me this morning and held space for me and all of my stuff, and I just feel really grateful to have people in my life where I can be fully free to express and be with, and share and not feel.
[00:42:37] Anything other than being held. So I love you, Sidra. Thank you. Alright, see you guys later.
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