Positive Discipline Parenting Blog

What to Do When Nanny Kids Bite

The first time I encountered a biting situation, I was caring for two absolutely delightful toddlers in a nanny share. These kiddos had grown up together since they were about six months old and had become great friends. Both were (and continue to be) kind, loving, and sweet children...

Positive Discipline for Teenagers: Chapters 1-3 

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be diving into Positive Discipline for Teenagers by Jane Nelsen and Lynn Lott on the Joyful Courage podcast, offering a deep dive into the principles behind this parenting approach. We’ll be exploring how Positive Discipline can help us navigate the messy, wonderful teen years with a focus on…  …connection, […]

Shifting from Worst Case Scenario to Trusting the Process With Our Teens

I say this a lot, but this season of parenting is messy. The terrain of adolescence is rough. It is the nature of the path, it is the nature of the season. Even when we are practicing our tools and setting up agreements and doing family meetings, it's still a rough season. I always get excited when I get to say that to people because I think there's a certain level of relief when you're reminded, "Hey, this isn’t necessarily you not being enough, this isn’t necessarily your kids having issues. This is the terrain. This is how adolescence feels." Granted, you might think, "Yeah, but this doesn’t look like what’s going on at my neighbor’s or my sister doesn’t seem to be having these issues with her teens." It’s all relative. It’s hard and every single thing that happens, including the challenges that show up with our teens, are an opportunity for us to… learn, to grow, to expand, and to get curious.

Why Teens Lie and What Parents Can Do About It

Parenting teens is a journey of growth—both for them and for us as parents. It’s often said that raising teenagers is like signing up for a personal growth workshop you didn’t realize you’d need, and it’s true. The challenges teens present push us to examine ourselves, our beliefs, and our responses. One of the trickiest and most triggering issues for parents is when their teens lie. But here’s the thing: lying, while frustrating, is not necessarily a reflection of a bad kid or poor parenting. It’s part of the messy terrain of adolescence.

Shielding Your Children: Navigating High-Conflict Co-Parenting

Parenting is full of surprises—some that make your heart swell, others that test your patience in ways you never imagined. Co-parenting with a high-conflict ex can amplify those challenges, turning everyday situations into hurdles that feel overwhelming. The tension, disagreements, and constant back-and-forth can drain you. Yet, through it all, one thing remains clear: your […]

When your teenager shuts you out

Parenting teens can sometimes feel like a constant balancing act. One moment, you might feel close to your child, only to be met with resistance, frustration, or distance in the next. This was exactly what one parent shared recently. Their 13-year-old daughter, while generally a good kid, was shutting them out—silent treatments, ignored texts, and […]